My life-changing lesson these last few weeks has been asking people for help.
I’ve always been a solve-your-own-problems kind of guy. Which definitely has it’s perks. You get to learn to do new things. There’s even some sort of pleasure in accomplishments after struggling with them first.
But I’ve recently come to learn that there’s also a thing such as unncessary pain. No matter what you’re struggling with, there’s probably someone you know (or know of) that’s brilliant at it.
Ben Hardy put this brilliantly in his book
. Ask ‘Who?’ not ‘How?’
Being a massive ‘How?’ guy thus far, this switch was quite hard. I know I can figure things out on my own. Given enough time, I’ll probably understand or find what I’m looking for. I don’t want to bother others. And although this is true, it’s not the point.
So instead of asking “How can I do this?”, I’ve started to think “Who do I know who can help me with this?” whenever I’m trying something new. For example, I’ve been asking my friends for help in brainstorming ideas for my book. It’s been brilliant. We get to attack my points from many angles, and quickly see what has the potential to work and what doesn’t.
Lots of this wouldn’t have been possible if I hadn’t been putting myself out there to start with. Thanks to the power of Twitter, I’ve become friends with published authors who’ve been through the process and have been so kind as to offer their help. This is just one of the many ways in which being active on Twitter has helped my life.
So two things I’d like to leave you with today are:
- What is something you’re currently working on you could ask someone for help with?
- How can you supercharge your connections with people through the internet or otherwise?
Have a great week!
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